A
funeral service for a crematorium, or a cemetery, leading to committal
Introductory notes: This service is penned for a post
Christian world and is intended for families who ever mainly culturally
Christian or not wholly Christians.
Gathering:
We are gathered together to morn and weep, we are
gathered together to rejoice and celebrate. For this is a day for both, it is a
day to be in communion with those we love, with our farther who loves us and
his son who died so that we will never die.
We are here for [Name of the deceased] to remember them,
to mark their leaving and to celebrate that God will rise them to life immortal
and the same God will heal our brokenness.
Amen
Silence
Blessed are those who morn, for they will be comforted.
Jesus wept as we weep for Lazarus, he wept for the pain of his loved one and he
rose Lazarus to life as he will raise us.
For god is our comfort, he has promised “He
will wipe every tear from their eyes. There will be no more death” or mourning
or crying or pain, for the old order of things has passed away.’
In this time of pain and hurt let us come together likes
chicks to our heavenly mother, let us follow our shepherd though the valley of
pain and suffering follow to the promised land where we are freed from death
sting.
Amen
Hymn:
Prayer of Pain and faithfulness
Based on Job 30
Have I not wept
for those in trouble?
Has not my soul grieved for the poor?
Yet when I hoped for good, evil came;
when I looked for light, then came darkness.
The churning
inside me never stops;
days of suffering confront me.
In his great power God becomes like clothing to me
He has not
forsaken me – though I mourn
He has not
forgotten me – though my pain is great
He weeps with me
He weeps for me
My God calls me
to his side
For his healing
For my comfort
So his mercy
life me up
My loved one has
gone one before me
God has walked
with them thought the valley of death
Though the
desert of sin
And now resides
in the city of Gold
God walks with
him, even up to dying himself on the cross to raise us all
God be with me
while I walk in pain
God be with me
in my brokenness
God be with me
Amen
The Ministry of the word:
Eulogy
Talk to the faithful
Talk to the doubtful
It is odd for a Christian text to command preacher talk to those who
don’t believe in the resurrection but they morn just as we who believe do and
they deserve comfort just as we do.
Response
Based on Psalm 34
We give thanks
that the Lord is close to the broken-hearted
and saves those who are crushed in spirit.
The righteous person
may have many troubles,
but the Lord delivers him from them all;
The Lord will rescue his servants;
No one who takes refuge in him will be condemned.
We give thanks
that when we seek the Lord, and he answers us;
That God will delivered us from all my fears.
I am blessed for when this poor person called the Lord heard him;
God stays with us and comfort us through all our troubles.
We our blessed when we find our refuge in his mercy.
We know you
walked with N in all their joys and sorrows
Just as you walk
with us still
We know that you
have taken N to be with you
You’ve taken N
beyond the trials and sufferings of this world
You did all this
though death and resurrection of your own son
You did all this
because you love us
A love never
perishes.
We thank you for
the joy they brought us
For the happy
memories we have of them
We thank you for
the love they brought in to our lives.
We praise you
our faithful father God
We give thanks
Lord for the life of N
It was your
abundant love that gives us life
It is your love
that will give us life immortal
Amen
Silence
Response prayer for those
who morn
Almighty God
Father of all
mercies and giver of all comfort,
Deal graciously
with those who morn,
That they may
cast every care on you
And know the
consolation of your love;
Through Jesus
Christ. Amen
Commendation:
We commit into
your keeping, O merciful God, the soul of our beloved N.
Receive them
into your perfect kingdom, and take us into your arms of mercy.
Take the soul of
N into the joy of everlasting peace and let them reside with you.
Take their soul
and keep them safe until we see them again on the day of resurrection.
Take from us
Lord all our anger or bitterness.
Take from us
lord all our hate and vileness.
We beseech thee
to do all of this in your power
For your glory
and through the blood of your son Jesus Christ
Amen
Intro to the Lord’s Prayer:
Death always
leaves much unresolved, pain left unexpressed, anger and earthly disputes lie
around like snares but what good is any of this? We are dust and to dust we
will all return. Let us remember that forgiveness and rebirth is at the heat of
the gospel, that love is our fathers command and that Christ lived the perfect
life of forgives to forgive all sin and all people.
Lord’s prayer
Hymn
Committal
Since the
earthly life of N has come to an end, we commit their body to the elements.
Earth to earth,
ashes to ashes, dust to dust;
In the sure and
certain hope of the resurrection to eternal life
In the sure and
certain hope of your mercy God
In the sure and
certain hoe that you will make them shine with your glory
We commit
ourselves to your spirit of forgiveness
In the sure an
certain hope you will heal our wounds
In the sure and
certain knowledge that you weep and rejoice with us.
Through our
saviour Jesus Christ;
To whom be glory
for ever and ever.
Amen.
Prayer for the living
We stand
separated from those who have gone to glory before us, until our labours on
earth are done.
Lord be with me
in my mourning, Lord weep with me and you wept for Lazarus
Lord cry out in
despair with me as you cried upon the cross
Lord embrace me
as your embraced Thomas when he saw your resurrected glory
When my earthly
labour our done lord bring me home Lord
Where I shall be
free from the darkness of this world,
Where I shall be
freed from the dazzling of this world.
In your house
there is no more fear nor struggle.
When I shall
pass with you though the valley of death
You will make me
whole once more
Your power shall
heal the wounds of this life
Like the blind
beggar I will receive new site
Through Christ I
shall live anew
In the communion
of your love
With all who have
walked with you and dwell with you
I will follow
faithful just as N has gone before me
Just as Christ
when before them, to prepare the way
Glory to God for
now and forever
Amen.
Silence
Hymn
Dismissal
God grant the
living times and places to morn
God grant the
living the spirit of forgiveness and to lay down any anger
To the departed,
grant rest, healing and resurrection;
To the world
grant, peace lover and healing
And to all the
blessing of God,
The Father, the
son and the holy Spirit,
Be with us now
in our morning
Be with us in
our joys
Be with us
forever
Amen
Let us go now
weeping and rejoice
Believing and
doubting
Let us go into a
hurting world and bring forth Gods mercy
Let us go to
live as N would have called us to
As God calls us
to
A Christ did and
does still
Let us go in
communion with each other
All those who
suffer or suffered
And in unity and
love
Through the
power of Christ,
In the company
of the Holy Spirit
And to do Gods
will.
Amen.